I might be biased and I have might have an agenda because I am a woman. But if things were flipped, I still would see no reason to vote against it. Violence is violence. And yes, violence is more prevalent against women. And the violence against women is caused predominantly by males, specifically males they know.
I have never been a victim of violence and I have never had family members or friends been victims either. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t see it, read about it, or hear about it. I understand it. I understand what it could do to a person. I understand that some men are violent because it makes them feel masculine, strong, and in control. I understand that some women find it hard to leave because they have no access to the money, are threatened, and feel no sense of purpose anymore. The year is 2013 and no longer are men always the breadwinners or head of the household. No longer are women expected to stay at home to take care of the 7 kids they are expected to have. Many women have Master’s degrees and great jobs and are no longer willing to settle for just any man.
Today, 22 Republican Men voted against VAWA. All women in the Senate voted for it, despite their party. This alone shows the problem with the Republican party today. They don’t seem to understand that women are in fact equal to men. They don’t seem to understand that rape is a violent and horrific crime (take the statements from various Republicans during the election as examples. Mourdock, Akin, Ryan, etc…) and that minimizing rape is like saying that it isn’t a big deal and rarely happens. But it does happen and it is a big deal.
Everyday, 3 women are murdered by their partner. What about the women who are hospitalized every day due to violence? I am sure that number is greater. The chart below (found on Planned Parenthood’s Facebook page), show just a few statistics about the prevalence of violence.
By voting against the act, these Republican men are sending a message to all women out there that they don’t care. I wish the reasons they voted against it were listed, because I would love to hear what they have to say (not really, but would love to see how stupid their reasons were). By voting against this, they are implying that they don’t believe domestic violence is an issue, that rape isn’t a big deal, and that it is the 1800s and it is okay (or expected) that a man take out his anger on a woman. It is backwards macho thinking like this that is irritating every woman in America today. Pair this with all the other news, such as North Dakota trying to pass a “personhood” act, New Mexico trying to punish rape victims who get abortions, and even Iowa where a woman was fired because the boss man found her attractive and was tempted to have an affair. Something needs to be done before we aren’t protected anymore.
It already is hard as hell to convict a rapist because they always try to blame the victim and rape kits are so backlogged. This act is supposed to help with the backlog. This act is a statement to women that we are protected and we can get the help we need. But with men like these trying to block every single thing that is trying to help women, I am worried. If this many men feel this way, I wonder how many others feel this way. I want to know when we, as a country, stopped progressing and stopping caring about the women in this country.